Wow…who goes on a nice relaxing vacation and comes home exhausted?? I guess that would be me. I had a horrible headache for most of the entire week, which I tried to ignore and not let it get the best of me, but honestly, there were days when it won. Mother Nature visited A and combine that with routine being out of whack, going to bed late, ADHD and Anxiety, and it left me with a pre-teen that swung between happy as can be, loving and kind, and some eye rolling, huffing, weepy, hypersenstive thing that I wouldn’t want to meet in a dark alley.
Don’t get me wrong. Vacation was great. It was nice to be away. It was nice to be unplugged and not have to worry about anything. Still, it wasn’t actually the de-stressing wonder that I had been envisioning for months. Maybe my expectations were too high. The first day, I was a tight knot of ADHD energy and I felt like I was going to crawl out of my own skin. I tried to relax and calm myself, but had little progress. The headache hit shortly after that, and it stayed with me the whole time. Some days worse than others, but always there.
All in all, it was still a nice vacation. We had fun, we made some wonderful memories. We had a lot of laughs. I think in the future though, when we are on a vacation that can constantly bombard us with activity, I would insist that A take a break in the afternoon, to relax, read, take a nap, whatever. Just an hour of quiet and a time to recharge. I would remind her every day that she needed to be aware of when she needed to take a break and try to self regulate, but it didn’t happen. She didn’t want to miss anything. She met some other kids, and there was always something to do, or someone to hang out with. She was constantly on the go, and it showed. You live and learn. I knew better, but things just slipped through my fingers this time in a slick, chaotic thread. I’m lucky though, it could have been worse.
I’m not complaining, it was still a good vacation. I just know that I can’t loosen my control of the ADHD even for a second. I can’t let go of the planning or the follow through. Live and learn.
It will take me a while to get all caught up now, but I’ll eventually get there. School starts next week. I just can’t believe it. In a way it will be nice to get back to a routine.
Anyone take a vacation with their kids? How did it go? Any thoughts you wan to share on traveling with kids or adults with ADHD?