I just want to take a minute and deviate from what I’ve been talking about lately to say something to anyone struggling right now.
No matter what you are dealing with, be it depression, anxiety, ADHD, loneliness, medical problems, family troubles, or whatever it is that YOU are having a hard time facing right now – I want to tell you that you are not alone.
Sometimes when things start to go wrong, or maybe they’ve been on the verge of wrong for a while and they just skidded over the edge, you feel like you are all alone in the world. You feel like you have to shoulder the burden all alone, that you have to be strong for everyone else, that you can’t let up, just for a minute, or things are going to fall apart. When you feel like you are at the end of your rope, you don’t know what to do, and you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel – I’m wishing good things for you. I am wishing for things to get better, I’m wishing for peace, love, healing, and strength for you.
I won’t say “It’ll be okay” because that is an empty platitude. A- was just telling me a couple days ago how she hates it when people tell her that, because for one, no one can know if things really are going to be okay or not, and another, because the words seem empty. And I guess they do. I told her that people say that when they don’t know what else to say, but they still want to offer encouragement in some way. Maybe they want to remind you that it really WILL all work out in the end in whatever way it is supposed to. But I can see her point. So I’m not going to tell you it’s going to be okay because I don’t know that for certain. What I do know is that you have more strength than you know, and that even when we feel alone, there are people going through a lot of the same as us. We may not have ever met them, but they are. Somewhere, someone knows EXACTLY how you feel.
Sometimes we need to know there are people that understand us, or at least sympathize with us. We need to know that when we are weighed down by our troubles that there is still always something to be grateful for. Even if it is very, very small.
Sometimes I feel like the world is crashing in on me. Sometimes I get tired of having to be the strong one. Sometimes I’m scared to cry because if I do I may never stop. Sometimes I can’t see the way out. Sometimes I wish I had someone to lean on, someone to help me through the bad parts – a shoulder to cry on, and someone to tell me what to do.
Then I remind myself that I have people who care about me. There are people that want me to be okay. They want A- to be okay. They are willing to listen if I need to talk. I’m lucky to have them. No, they can’t take away what troubles me, they can’t tell me what to do, they can’t fix it; but they can care, and sometimes that is a great gift in itself.
Tonight I’m sending a big hug into the universe to all those in need of one. It comes with a reminder that you aren’t alone. You are stronger than you realize and I believe in you.